Sometimes it feels like playing in a band is almost like being in a love relationship with a woman. It has all the same ups and downs, same thrills and similar disappointments. Here’s my story so far. Read it and see for yourself.
When I was 14 I fell in love. It happened so suddenly. One average music lesson I was forcing my fingers to an E minor and the next I was already playing ”Viidestoista yö” to the whole class while they sang it. First ever relationship started with Mikko, however, and the band was called ”Endless Emptiness”.
We quickly gathered all other people required for a rock-band-marriage around us. Jealousy is a bitch though. Mikko soon started to flirt with heavy metal. I was even willing to accept the odd affair here and there but when he finally told us that he was going to choose ”the RMS” instead of ”Naked Grin”, it broke my heart. Luckily I still had Okko and Juska with whom we formed ”Dayrage”, but it just wasn’t the same. How I wish that we had stayed together! I guess we’ll never now how beautiful song-children we would have given birth to.
In my sorrow I wondered off. I was without a band for a long time.
Finally my scars were healed enough for me to place an add on muusikoiden.net. I was looking for another guitarist to form a band with. That spring was full of hope and surely enough Pete replied and we met up. The first date was electric. I told him I liked Rage Against the Machine and he told me he liked them too. We had a couple of beers.
With ”Below Me” I thought that I had found the group that I was going to play with untill our rock life would end at 27 years-of-age, but something got in the way. Pete was enchanted by a real diva called ”Peer Gunt”! He left us for her and my already weak heart was crushed once more. This time I got in defence mode. Even though I wasn’t the biological fateher of our song-children, as they were mostly written by Pete, I had grown such a strong relationship with them that I couldn’t let go without burning all bridges behind me. I left without even leaving a note.
Disaster followed after another. With My ex-lead guitarist Okko and his new bass associate Antti, we worked for two long years as “For tonight Josephine” only to be dumped by our drummer. However, It was this ground breaking companionship with Antti and Okko and a crush on another man’s band that got the fire started up again.
While I had been roaming around, Okko had established a well founded relationship with a mysterious flamenco-world fusion band caled ”Bajo Cero”. This is also how he got acquainted with Antti. I was so jealous I could die. I went to see them play live and pretended I didn’t care. I was trying to play hard to get I guess.
Against all odds I was asked to join the band and that’s where I am now. Love fills the air again. In every single practise we play it’s magic, and in every single show I get to feel the warmth of an amazing crowd. Just like 60% of all marriages in Finland that end in divorce, this band-affair has a lot of difficult times ahead but I’m sure that this is it. We’re going to make it!
And just like that I get a facebook friend request from Pete. Hessu, the drummer of Below Me turns 30 next friday and all of his ex bands have been asked to come and play in a surprise party in his honor. How could I resist? There’s never any real harm in a little flirt or an adventure? Right? I don’t even have to tell my current band…
P.s. All people and in this blog are real. To those people I’d like to say that I hope you are not offended in any way. I love you all!