In my previous blog entry, I wrote about a phenomenon called the mold, and how it tries to suck you inside. It’s like a road. Roads are usually surfaced by the government with asphalt to ensure a smooth ride from spot A to spot B. For example, if I want to take a car trip to Kajaani, I know exactly the way, which way to turn, amount of gas needed, etc. Nothing new, often I just wish that the trip would be over as soon as possible, because it is boring because I know what will happen the next 1,5 hours. Life is like this road trip to Kajaani. I see other people sharing the same ride in their own cars, they also seem to know where they are going. They might pass me if I am too slow or even give me the finger. What if suddenly on the way from A to B, I would take road C that is not in the map. The car would brake down in the forest, I might even hit a tree, and become a pedestrian and get eaten by a bear, I would never get to Kajaani this time. This introduction was written because last time I stated that people choose the mold or the asphalted road to get from A to B because it is easier.
Now to the actual topic. In the mold checklist, I stated career or doing your job as one of the checkpoints in life. I read an interesting article about the essence of being social. The trend so far has been, especially in the work life, that social individuals, or socializing in general, are embraced. The article states that problems in the work life are not solved just by being “a cool person” or hiring them. I wonder how many have filled a job application stating that they are social and practically get along with every single person on earth. Everyone knows inside their head that this is not possible, and the “getting along” thing limits itself really into a handful of people in each person’s life. Rest of the time we are just tolerable while our instinct tells us to run from the unpleasant waste of time social situation.
According to the article, a job applicant would really stand out from the mass if one would state that new people are not always interesting and s(he) does not get along with everybody because s(he) does not approve the way some people behave. A very good underlining point in the article was that people often confuse social skills to socializing or being social. A social person prefers being accompanied by other people over being alone, whereas social skills are the skills that tell us how to behave in a social situation. Therefore, a social person, i.e. desires company over solitude, can be a total brick if that person lacks social skills, and the other way round. I have also written into an application that I am a social person although I often feel that being social means nothing. It is like saying “hi” to the TV’s news reporter. I will never write that again.